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Why Do We Keep Failing Ourselves? 50 Unique Reasons

Why we keep failing ourselves. A look into the universal reasons why we think we are failing and the truth behind our failure and how to fix it!


Overcoming the “shame, blame, pain” game requires a shift in mindset and self-compassion. Instead of dwelling on past failures and allowing them to dictate your future, acknowledge them as valuable learning experiences. Embrace the lessons learned, forgive yourself, and let go of the negative emotions that hold you back. Focus on your strengths and the progress you’ve made, setting clear, achievable goals. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who uplift and encourage you. By fostering resilience, practicing self-kindness, and maintaining a forward-looking perspective, you can transform setbacks into stepping stones, ultimately propelling yourself towards your goals with renewed determination and confidence.


Here are 50 of the leading causes of failure. Once you identify with your specific root causes, you’ll be in a better place to see when it begins to happen and steer away. I have found it helpful to be part of a program to keep me on course and stick to my commitment. 


Accountability can be learned. 

Don’t live in your past. 

Give yourself and others grace.

Best way to move forward is to understand why or how things have gone and DECIDE TO MAKE CHANGES AND SHIFTS IN YOUR ACTIONS TO MOVE FORWARD.

Today only happens once in your lifetime — make the most out of it!

LIfe is far to short to waste on self pity or loathing the past.

#CreateYourBestDayEver  XOXO- BECCA



  1. Lack of Clear Goals: Goals are not specific or well-defined.
  2. No Plan: Failing to create a detailed plan or strategy.
  3. Procrastination: Delaying action and putting off tasks.
  4. Fear of Failure: Being too afraid to take risks or make mistakes.
  5. Lack of Motivation: Not feeling inspired or driven to achieve the goal.
  6. Lack of Commitment: Not fully dedicating oneself to the goal.
  7. Poor Time Management: Not effectively managing time and priorities.
  8. Distractions: Allowing interruptions and distractions to derail progress.
  9. Unrealistic Expectations: Setting goals that are unattainable or overly ambitious.
  10. Lack of Support: Not seeking help or support from others.
  11. Negative Mindset: Having a pessimistic attitude or self-doubt.
  12. Impatience: Expecting quick results and giving up too soon.
  13. Lack of Accountability: Not holding oneself responsible for progress.
  14. Poor Health: Physical or mental health issues hindering progress.
  15. Financial Constraints: Insufficient resources or funds to achieve the goal.
  16. Overwhelm: Feeling overwhelmed by the scope of the goal.
  17. Lack of Skills: Not possessing the necessary skills or knowledge.
  18. Environmental Factors: External factors beyond one’s control.
  19. Inconsistency: Not maintaining a regular and consistent effort.
  20. Lack of Feedback: Not seeking or responding to constructive feedback.
  21. Perfectionism: Striving for perfection and becoming paralyzed by it.
  22. Comparing to Others: Getting discouraged by comparing oneself to others.
  23. Burnout: Overworking and not taking breaks leading to exhaustion.
  24. Lack of Passion: Not being truly passionate about the goal.
  25. Misaligned Goals: Goals that don’t align with personal values or desires.
  26. Overcommitting: Taking on too many goals at once.
  27. Fear of Success: Anxiety about the changes that success might bring.
  28. Lack of Resources: Not having access to necessary tools or materials.
  29. Changing Goals: Constantly changing goals and losing focus.
  30. No Progress Tracking: Not tracking progress and adjusting as needed.
  31. Self-Sabotage: Engaging in behaviors that undermine success.
  32. Poor Habits: Maintaining habits that are counterproductive.
  33. Lack of Discipline: Not being disciplined or sticking to routines.
  34. External Pressure: Being pressured by others and losing personal motivation.
  35. Unhealthy Relationships: Toxic relationships draining energy and focus.
  36. Lack of Adaptability: Not adapting to changing circumstances or obstacles.
  37. Ignoring Setbacks: Not learning from failures or setbacks.
  38. Lack of Vision: Not having a long-term vision or purpose.
  39. Over-Analyzing: Getting stuck in analysis paralysis.
  40. Negative Environment: Surrounding oneself with negativity or discouragement.
  41. Over Reliance on Others: Depending too much on others for success.
  42. Lack of Persistence: Giving up after facing initial challenges.
  43. Conflicting Priorities: Having other priorities that conflict with the goal.
  44. Limited Belief System: Holding limiting beliefs about one’s abilities.
  45. Avoiding Challenges: Not pushing oneself out of the comfort zone.
  46. No Reward System: Not rewarding oneself for small achievements.
  47. Mismanagement of Stress: Poor stress management affecting performance.
  48. Lack of Learning: Not continuously learning or improving.
  49. Ignoring Self-Care: Neglecting self-care leading to burnout or fatigue.
  50. Not Enjoying the Process: Focusing only on the end result and not enjoying the journey.
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