As a personal coach, I use deep and thought-provoking questions all the time to help clients uncover insights about themselves, find their life passions and challenge their limiting beliefs.
But you don’t need a life coach to help you do this.
You can learn how to ask yourself questions that make you think in the same way a coach may ask, which will teach you how to be introspective and become emotionally unstuck.
It can help you stop feeling like you have lost your way and learn coping mechanisms to overcome stress.
The right questions may also help you realize why you feel stuck or feel constantly stressed.
Deep thought questions let you organize your thinking. develop analytical thinking skills, and define your priorities and values.
If you want to jump into a list of thoughtful questions, grab a journal to write down your answers to some philosophical questions I’ve included in this post.
After you’ve completed your answers, save the journal to revisit your answers in six months or a year to see if anything has changed in your life as a result.
You may also want to use these deep questions to ask someone you care about so you can learn more about him or her and strengthen your relationship.
Quick note: Finding your passion and purpose can make your work and life feel exciting. To learn more, check out this LIFE TRANSFORMATION QUIZ that can help you discover what makes you come alive.
Can we ever believe someone when they say their intentions are different from their actions? What if someone’s intentions were truly transparent?
This philosophical question will help you think deeply about how your intentions match up with your actions.
This often happens in many different areas of our lives. We would rather lay down in front of the television than exercise. We want to reach for that piece of pizza instead of the salad. We fall back into toxic relationships instead of moving on.
Why does it often feel better to do what is unhealthy than it does to do what is healthy? Think about ways you can motivate yourself to pick up healthy habits.
What if one of your long-held memories isn’t actually completely true? Does it matter?
Can you think of times where you have felt completely sure of something but someone tells you otherwise?
Considering this deep thought question will help you recognize that you could be wrong or partly wrong about things you believe to be true. It can help you challenge your beliefs and look at other perspectives.
This may be going up to a stranger in the grocery store and giving them a compliment or reaching out to someone who has your dream job and ask them how they got there.
Anything that breaks you out of your shell just a little bit will help you grow, especially if you do it every day.
Once you are comfortable with being uncomfortable, you will open up a lot of doors and opportunities for yourself.
Are you stuck in a culinary rut? Try foods from cuisines that you never normally consider and develop a more sophisticated palate.
Have you ever had Korean food? What about Moroccan food?
Experiment with some new foods and you will probably be surprised at some of the things you never thought you would like.
Is it from the acceptance of other people? High achievement or success in your career field?
What lets you know each day that you are an important part of this world?
Do a DEEP CHECK into this question.
Find your source of self-worth so you know what makes you feel valuable and deserving.
We all look back into our pasts thinking, “I can’t believe I did that…” (or thought that, or cared so much about that).
What is something that is a key factor in your life today that you think will change over time and you will look back on with a bit of embarrassment, regret, or shame?
Thinking about this may help you change some of your current habits. — It’s all about HABITS!! Got some that need a big heave-ho?
When do you truly feel alive? Maybe this is when you are traveling, being spontaneous, running a marathon, or chasing your kids around the park.
What really makes you feel you’re taking advantage of the time you have on Earth? Do more of these things to give yourself the fullest life possible.
Think about it, we all have basically the same set of rules (I know some don’t follow the golden ones).
What “RULES” or restrictions are you telling yourself that keep you trapped like a caged animal?
Think about your own freedom and the things in life that may be holding you back.
If you’ve made a resolution to eat healthily and exercise more, you’re not alone. Losing weight and exercising are two of the most common New Year’s resolutions. But as time passes, it’s easy to forget your resolutions and your new nutrition plan — Any tim eof the year! And then what? Your bad habits creep back in, even after all of that hard work. Try just ONE of these ways to stay motivated and get back on your bike!
1. Have a Weigh-in
STOP weigh yourself every day or every other day, the scale is the enemy. Honey, you know if you ate well, drank enough water and got your moderate exercise in for the day. Instead, grab your phone and snap pix every 2 weeks and jump on the scale at that time as well. Focus on food not the needle on the scale.
2. Put Money Down
Hire a personal trainer, health coach or join a group to help you reach your fitness and nutrition goals. Or pay for extra fitness classes at the gym. You need to truly invest in your success. When you pay for something, you’re more willing to commit to it. Consider it your holiday present to yourself. — Hey every day is your birthday according to my client, Jay Weisberg. :))
3. Start Fresh
It’s a new day — for your refrigerator and pantry. Purge the junk food from your cupboards and start with a clean slate as you move to healthier eating habits. Don’t keep three dozen Christmas cookies in your freezer if you don’t have to. Remove all temptation. Discard the unhealthy choices you made and restock with healthier versions.
4. Plan Ahead
Plan time to exercise and to cook and eat healthy meals. YUP, PLAN! Put it on your calendar. If you schedule time for exercise just as you do for doctors’ appointments, you’ll find it’s easier to stick with it. The same goes for eating healthy. Plan a healthy menu and write a shopping list to take to the store. It’s easier to stick to your nutrition goals when you have a list while shopping. You’ll also be better equipped to make healthy meals and snacks at home when the foods you need are handy.
5. Set Realistic Goals
You’re more likely to stay motivated when you have a realistic plan rather than vague wishes or overly optimistic ideals. First be specific. Instead of saying, “I’m going to lose weight,” set a goal to lose 3 to 15 pounds in one month. Then, be realistic. For example, instead of giving up sweets entirely, say “I’m going to only eat dessert Friday nights.” — YES sister, be specific on the day you’ll have dessert. Everything needs to be detailed when you are starting out. If your nutrition plan includes realistic goals, you’ll be more likely to achieve them.
6. Reward Your Success
Your goal could be to lose 2 pounds or to not eat seconds at any meal for a week. Whatever it is, when you reach it, reward yourself with something small — just be sure it’s not a food-related treat. Go to the movies with a friend. Get your nails done. Buy that new sweater. Go for a walk in the woods with your dog. These types of rewards help provide the incentive you need to continue working toward bigger goals.
7. Write It Down
You’ve heard me say a million times, “Success is on the sticky note.” Putting your actions down on paper helps you focus what you’re doing to help (or hurt) your goals. If you keep a food journal, you can look back at what you’ve eaten, which could be more or less than you realize. Joining an online support group where you can share your food journal with others can help. And of course— WRITE IT OUT ON A STICKY and place at the BEST SPOTS.
8. Try New Recipes and New Gadgets
Look for healthy recipes online. Try the ones that appeal to you most. Breaking up your routine with new recipes keeps your healthy eating plan interesting. And if you’re not bored, it’s easier to stick to your goals. Buying new kitchen accessories is another way to stay excited about healthy cooking. “Whenever I get a new kitchen appliance — pots, pans, food processor, or even a knife — I want to play with it, which can help me expand what I’m eating in a healthy way.”
9. Be Forgiving
What if you can’t resist and you eat that piece of pecan pie from Christmas or dig into a bag of chips? Don’t be too hard on yourself. You can’t change what you’ve eaten, but you can make better choices at your very next meal. If you wait until tomorrow or Monday to get back to eating healthy, it will be that much harder.
Adopting a nutrition plan and sticking to it can be much easier than you think, especially if you employ these tricks to help you along the way.
Have you heard all about the benefits of INTERMITTENT FASTING but don’t quite know how to get started? Have you always thought EATING SALADS is the only way to get your greens or eat clean? THINK AGAIN! Check out my 21 Day Intermittent Plant-based Flexitarian (Allows for eggs, fowl, fish & meat) Challenge. — Learn how to infuse more healthy real, whole-food into your lifestyle. Click here to check out the challenge.