9 Mindset Shifts To Think Clearer and Shift Your Life

BIG AUDACIOUS GOALS are exciting at first, but then THAT VOICE of fear and doubt can interfere with the progress and even ultimately cause you to put your dreams on hold. Has this ever happened to you? Oh beauty, I too SO relate! (I’ll share more below). If you are wondering how you’re going to get there or what could get in the way? Chances are, it’s your mindset. Here are 9 Mindset Shifts To Think Clearer and Shift Your Life. 

There’s one common theme that underpins many theories about living your dream life: your mindset, beliefs and the way you think override everything.

The #1 area that personal development coaches like Tony Robbins, Mel Robbins (not related) and Gary Vaynerchuck nail for personal growth, is ‘mindset’. I have found coaching wellness and weight loss to cancer patients, teenagers, moms, grossly obeese clients and business professionals the same underlying issue that will take someone to the finish line or have them quit is MINDSET. So I set out to study it so I could guide my clients (and myself) to obtaining their big fat audacious goals.

Mindset is how you choose to approach any situation. When you have an open and positive mindset, you are able to see the possibilities in any situation. When you go in with a closed or negative mindset, you are severely limiting your experience to the most negative aspects of any given situation. Positivity opens the realm of possibilities, while negatively closes down.

 

Positivity opens the realm of possibilities, while negatively closes down.

 

Past experience and lens through which your brain views the world is what shapes your reality. It’s not necessarily the reality (aka TRUTH) that shapes us, but the Ninety percent of your long-term happiness is predicted not by the external world, but by the way your brain processes the world. Ironically, 91-97% of our experiences are shaped by our subconscious mind. That is to say, our decisions are based on past experiences. And if we change our formula for happiness and success, we can change the way that we can then affect reality.

Bottom line: Mindset is everything.

The story we tell ourselves is the story our mind believes. Our perception creates our reality. Our beliefs create our outcome.

Therefore, the quickest way to live the life of your dreams is to shift your mindset. The question then becomes, how? How do you change your underlying beliefs and thought patterns?

 

Review and apply these 9 mindset shifts to help you live your dream life.

1. Believe in Yourself

From “I’m not enough” to “I am awesome”

So much of what holds people back is the belief they have about themselves. And one of the most common beliefs? Feeling you’re not enough, not worthy, not deserving.

Learning how to question the lies you’ve been telling yourself, possibly your whole life.

I told you I’d share some of my backstories to help you understand better…

I missed approximately 20% of my elementary school years due to illness and pain. It was hard to make-up all of that missed work. I have dyslexia, factor this in and now I began telling myself, “I am stupid.” This was hammered in by the teachers and my parents lessoning their expectations on me. Today I realize they tried to “make it easier on me and not add more stress” which probably would have added more illness. But this was buried deep in my beliefs and until my mid-40’s I didn’t think I was “enough” — despite starting and running a small advertising agency with 14 employees in my mid-20’s.

For whatever reason, you feel you’re not enough, know this: You were born enough. You are awesome, worthy and deserving of love, happiness, and success. It’s not by chance that you have arrived here, on this planet, at this very time. You are not a mistake. There is only one you and people need what you bring to the world.

You are uniquely you. That is your superpower.

You are enough. You may not be able to believe this yet, but some part of you, deep down, knows this to be true.

DO IT NOW!

• Seek to understand and silence the inner critic. What are your underlying reasons for not feeling ‘enough?’ Is the inner critic your own voice, or that of a parent or authority figure? What story are you telling yourself that is not true? This might take some deep work including therapy, coaching, or counseling, but it’s worth it.

 

2. Empower Yourself

From “I don’t have a choice” to “I always have a choice”

How many times have you felt trapped or that you didn’t have a choice?

You may not have control over the circumstances, and life will likely bring many challenges and difficulties, but you always have control over two very important things: your choices and attitude.

One of my favorite accounts of this shift is Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl. Frankl was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist who survived the Holocaust. In his book, he shares,

‘Everything can be taken from us but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.‘

If Frankl can choose, when faced with those treacherous and unfathomable circumstances, surely we all can choose ours.

DO IT NOW!

• Choose. When you find yourself in a situation where you feel you have no choice, identify your options. What choices do you have? You can choose to complain or act. Choose to change or accept your circumstances. Choose to take one step forward or stay stuck. Choose to speak up or stay quiet. Choose to look forward or continue to look back. Choose love or stay in anger and fear. So, what do you choose?
• Identify what you are in control of. A lot of stress, frustration, fear, and anger comes when things are – or feel – out of our control. When you feel out of control, take a step back and identify what you can control. This could be one small item or a shift in your energy or attitude.

 

3. Believe in What Is Possible

From “It is impossible” to “It is possible”

Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford

If you don’t wholeheartedly believe you can achieve something, it just won’t happen. Therefore, if you want to live your dream life, you first must believe that’s possible.

For many years, everyone believed it was physically impossible to run a 4-minute mile. They said the human body was incapable and your heart would explode.

In the 1940’s, someone ran it in 4:01, a record that stayed for nine years. Then, in May 1954, Roger Bannister broke the 4-minute barrier, running the mile in 3:59.4. This didn’t happen solely by sheer hard work, training and passion. It happened because Roger believed that it was possible. He knew he could do it. He trained by visualizing the outcome.

Less than six weeks later, Australian John Landy ran it in 3:58. Every year following, more people began accomplishing what was once thought impossible. Now, more than 1,400 individuals have run the 4-minute mile.

Once Barrister broke the perception of what people believed was possible, it opened up others’ minds to believe the same thing. When they thought they couldn’t, they couldn’t, and when they believed they could, they did.

The same is true for each of us. That goal, vision or intention you have for your dream life, do you believe it’s possible? If so, you are well on your way to making it happen! However, if there’s doubt or skepticism flooding your mind, the likelihood is low of you achieving your dreams.

DO IT NOW!

• Change your language. Shift your thinking from There’s no way to There’s always away. It doesn’t work to How can we make this work? When you find yourself finding problems, switch to a solution mindset. Edison is famously quoted, “I learned 10,000 ways not to invent a lightbulb.” He saw each failure as a step closer to his end goal.
• Visualize the outcome. Our minds believe what we show and tell them; if you can visualize it happening, just like Banister, your mind will believe you. Imagine your dream life as if it’s already real. What do you see, hear or feel? Put yourself in that state of mind.
• Have a little faith and believe anyway when logic fails.

 

4. Believe in the Good

From “looking for the bad” to “looking for the good”

Sometimes when things are falling apart, they may actually be falling into place. – Tony Robbins

Belief in the good comes in a couple of forms. The world and people.

Let’s start with the world. Studies on confirmation bias (phenomenon where people tend to seek information to reinforce their own beliefs) have proven we find what we’re looking for.

People tend to (often unconsciously) look for things that reinforce what they already believe to be true. If you’re looking for what is good in the world, you’re going to see that. If you’re looking for what’s wrong, or believe the world is out to get you, guess what you’re going to see?

Instead, what if you believed that everything was happening for your greatest good? Even if it doesn’t seem that way. What if you assumed that everything was working out exactly as it should and that the world/universe/God has your back?

Now, let’s look at people. One of the key principles I use in all of my leadership and team development work is to ‘Assume Positive Intent.’ We often make assumptions and judgments about others based on their behavior, without understanding their underlying motivation. Assuming positive intent requires us to consider another’s intention before we judge that behavior. This might lead you to ask questions or seek to see things from their point of view.

Everyone is dealing with something you have no idea about, and sometimes what seems like an attack or slight against you is simply someone having a rough day or just a different style than yours. How many fights have you had in your own head with someone who has no idea they even hurt or upset you – only to find out later it was just a miscommunication or misunderstanding?

DO IT NOW!

• Replace ‘Why is this happening TO me?’ with ‘Why is this happening FOR me?’ or ‘What is this going to teach me?’ When you look for the good, the lesson or the intention, you will find it. It’s all about asking a BETTER question from a mindset of positivity.
• Assume positive intent. Next time someone does something that upsets you or makes you angry, take a step back, and assume they had a good intention. What were they trying to achieve? Suspend judgment and seek to understand why they might have done what they did.
• Change what you’re looking for. It’s time to start looking for those things that support your dream life. Look for the good. Find the positive.

 

5. Live in the Moment

From “life is a destination” to “life is a journey”

It’s true what they say, life is a journey, not a destination, so we might as well enjoy the ride.

If we are always trying to get ‘there’ (wherever ‘there’) is, we’re missing out on where we are now. The gifts, beauty and the joy that each moment brings. When you stay in the present, you can see opportunities, take advantage of the unexpected, go with the flow, and listen to that little voice inside you.

On the flip side, when you are attached to a particular outcome or the way things should be, you can become disappointed about the way things actually are. But they are what they are! If you can take each moment to accept, learn and grow, and not wish things were different, you’ll find greater happiness and fulfillment.

People often get stuck in the when/then trap. They say, ‘When I meet someone, I’ll be happy?’ or ‘When I get the promotion I’ll be satisfied at work?’ or ‘When I have more money, I’ll make the change.’ You can choose to be happy today. You can find what you need to be satisfied at work. You can make the change without money.

DO IT NOW!

• Be. Here. Now. Being present is powerful, especially when it comes to anxiety and stress. Our minds are often worrying about the past or anticipating the future. Being present helps calm your mind, center your thoughts and bring greater peace. Get present by practicing mindfulness or meditation.
• Get out of the when/then trap. When you hear yourself saying, ‘when, then’, stop and think about what you can do now. Are you waiting for someone or something to be satisfied or fulfilled? Can you find that now? Decide to be happy with where you are now, with what you have today. You can always choose happiness, joy or gratitude in any moment.

 

6. Switch Your ‘What Ifs’

From “what’s the worst that can happen” to “what’s the best that can happen”

We spend so much life fearing the inevitable…and how much of what you fear actually comes to light? How much energy do you waste wondering, ‘what if…’, anticipating consequences, complications, risks and what could go wrong?

All those what-ifs are like an app running in the background on your phone. They drain your battery. And since worrying will never change the outcome, why not do something that will?

I see so many people paralyzed by all the what-ifs and potential ramifications of their actions. But the people I’ve seen be most successful are those who focus on the possibility, the opportunity, the potential — ‘what is’ not ‘what if.’ That doesn’t mean you ignore the risks or potential challenges; it just means you don’t let them stop you from moving forward!

DO IT NOW!

• Identify the best that could happen. Identify the positives in any situation. Instead of identifying what could go wrong, identify what could go right. If you’re thinking ‘What if I don’t make the team?’ Switch it to ‘What if I do?’ Instead of wondering, ‘What if I speak up and lose my job?” Consider, ‘What if I speak up and get a promotion for my ideas, honesty and courage?’
• Remember this. If you’re having a tough time, feeling stuck in a rut, or going through something challenging … it’s all good in the end. If it’s not good, it’s not the end.

 

7. Be True To Yourself

From “I must fit in succeed” to “I must be myself to succeed”

Do you know what the number one regret of the dying is? A wish to have… “Had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”.

Throughout our lives, we are taught who we have to be in order to fit in and be successful. But what others need and expect from us isn’t always how we thrive at our best. Often, by trying to fit in, we lose our unique gifts, talents and even our sense of self.

You can’t compare yourself to others. We think we are competing against each other, yet we are all running a different race. Frankly, the only one you really need to compete against is yourself.

True and lasting success comes from authenticity, congruence and becoming the best version of YOU.

DO IT NOW!

• Identify and honor on your strengths. Everyone seems to be trying to fix or improve something. We are all flawed. What if you spent as much time using your strengths as you do to fix your weaknesses? That’s what those who are living their dream life do – harness their unique gifts and talents. They know they have faults, but they don’t dwell on them or waste time and energy trying to change themselves. Try this: for the next 30 days, write down 3 things you like and value about yourself. This might be talents, strengths, skills or personality traits. Then figure out how to use those traits more often to build your dream life.
• Find out who YOU are. It’s easy to get caught up in the expectations of the world. When you are clear about your values, beliefs, passions and what’s important to you, you are more confident and self-assured. Get to know yourself at a deeper level. Self-reflection and self-awareness are the first steps. Identify what your dream life is, not everyone else’s. When you know yourself well, you can stand strong in a world full of competing expectations.
• Stop comparing yourself. You are running your own race. You are not ahead or behind. You are exactly where you are meant to be, as Teddy Roosevelt said.

 

8. Where Awareness Goes, Energy Flows

From “the grass is always greener where you water it”

You’ve all probably heard of the Law of Attraction and how to manifest your best life. So much of that knowledge and wisdom comes from where you put your energy.

DO IT NOW!

• The grass is always greener where you water it. Want greener grass in some area of your life? Water it with love, energy and positive attention.
• Stop watering the weeds. Remember, what you feed gets bigger. Water the flowers you’ll get more flowers. Water the weeds you’ll get more weeds. Feed your goals you’ll reach your goals, feed your fears you’ll get more fear.

 

9. Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

From “what’s missing” to “what you’re grateful for”

Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance – Eckhart Tolle

Being grateful is one of the simplest, yet most powerful things you can do to live your dream life.

Studies continue to prove the benefits from expressing gratitude; ranging from how it improves relationships, physical and emotional health, and sleep to mental stamina, energy and overall happiness.[2] Did you know that it’s physically impossible to feel fear and gratitude at the same moment?

The next time you feel you’re lacking in your life, the next time you feel jealous of what others have or unsatisfied with what you have, try switching to gratitude. Acknowledge all the good in the world. Recognize all that you have and that you are grateful for.

DO IT NOW!

• Start a gratitude journal. Write down 3 things you’re grateful for each day and re-read the list every morning upon awakening and going to sleep. A 1-minute mind reset! Studies have shown that in just 21 days, your brain will hold on to this pattern and start finding the positive on its own. Being grateful invites even greater abundance into our lives.
• Set a gratitude alarm on your phone: When it goes off, find something for which you are thankful. You can acknowledge this silently to yourself, or better yet, send a note thanking somebody in your life.

 

It’s Time To Ask Yourself …

As you read these shifts, what did you notice? Which one(s) resonated with you the most? Which do you believe will help you live your dream life? Which strategies will you try?

Now, take it a step further. Stop scrolling and before you move on to the next thing, ask yourself a few more questions…

• Consider your dream life. What thoughts, beliefs or mindset shifts do you need in order to create that life?
• That goal you’ve been trying to achieve: do you believe you can? If not, what would it take to believe it?
• What assumptions are you making about yourself or others that are getting in your way?

Are You Ready?

If you’re ready to live your dream life, then it’s time to shift your thinking.

Shift your thinking, shift your life.

You decide who you want to become. You decide how you get there. Create the vision you have for yourself and your dream life and go after it. Remove all the barriers in your way, especially those in your mind.

Remember, in order to change your story, you must consistently tell yourself a new story. In order to change, you must be willing to change. In order to shift, you must have an open mind and desire to grow.

‘Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.’ — Gandhi

Are you ready to live your dream life? Great, let’s get going! Click to schedule a lifestyle and health strategy call: http://bit.ly/coachingwithbecca 

 

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A great read, “Shift Your Thinking, Shift Your Life With These 9 Mindset Shifts”