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25 Ways To Spice Up Your Communication With Your Lover


Blonde on megaphone1. Spice Up Your Communication: Go for a ride

Talk about the good things in life, appreciating each other, discover some interesting places, mom and pop shops.Try it sometime and share your experience.

2. Spice Up Your Communication: Go Paddle Boarding or Seek An Adventure

Let it unwind you. Be adventurous in your expedition. Choose something you’ve never done. Go outside and discover how nature can nurture your souls. Spend an afternoon on a lake or river. Lead each other around the sand bars. Sing silly songs. Share memories. Rent or borrow a canoe or boat. Glide quietly and watch the wildlife. Have a good laugh if you get a little wet … and have extra clothes back at the car just in case.

3. Spice Up Your Communication: Pray Together

Share with each other what you desire. Listen lovingly with respect her/him.

4. Spice Up Your Communication: Go to a Concert in the Park

Go to a free concert or movie in the park if the weather is nice. Search the Internet to find free concerts or movies near you. Take a picnic basket and a blanket and warm your heart with good music or a romantic movie. Remember to take lawn chairs, and one blanket in which you both can cuddle.

5. Spice Up Your Communication: Decadent Dessert

Eat dinner at home but go out for a decadent dessert, maybe seek a fireplace in the winter. Feed each other or share your dessert with one fork.

6. Spice Up Your Communication: Steamy Candlelight

Create a romantic setting in your bathroom and bedroom with lots of candlelight. (A bag of tea lights is inexpensive.) Take a hot bath or shower. Prepare yourself for a romantic evening together and go from there!

7. Spice Up Your Communication: Plan a Surprise activity 

Plan an afternoon fishing together, or dinner, or movie. Pack a picnic basket or a few snacks. Head for a nearby river or beach. Let him teach you how to fish if you don’t know how, and enjoy being together. Let her teach you about the stars or meditation.

8. Spice Up Your Communication: Take Time To Reflect

Remember where you started. Look at photos from old days at the start of your  relationship. Tell him / her what first attracted you to each other (even if you’ve already told it before a 100 times).

Spice Up Y9. our Communication: Turn up the heat in the kitchen. 

Head to the supermarket together, then cook/bake his/her favorite meal together or bring her breakfast in bed. 🙂

10. Spice Up Your Communication: Send cut flowers from the garden. 

Send fresh flowers to work with your spouse to freshen up his / her desk or drop by on his / her lunch break with lunch and fresh flowers.  HINT: You don’t have to wait for a special occasion to send flowers to each other.

11. Spice Up Your Communication: Volunteer together. 

Talk together about a cause that means a lot to both of you or find a volunteer opportunity that your spouse is keen on and arrange to volunteer together. Perhaps you could mentor a couple together, spend a weekend building a Habitat for Humanity home, put together gift bags for the homeless and deliver them together. Pick out a Compassion child to sponsor and correspond with, or visit an elderly person who is lonely.

12. Spice Up Your Communication: Love Notes

Leave love notes in unexpected (but discreet) places inside your spouse’s underwear draw, briefcase or in her make-up bag or front seat of her car. I love leaving messages on sticky notes all over, so my love finds them when he gets home. Make them sweet, funny.

13. Spice Up Your Communication: Praise

Praise each other for small things that you like, cooking, dress, beauty, (Be genuine in your praise, make sure you mean what you say) Make a point to praise your lover … within his/her earshot to a friend or family member.

14. Spice Up Your Communication: Appreciation

Tell your significant other something you’ve really admired about her/him lately. Mail gentle loving notes of appreciations to each other. Write something that brings a smile. Build him up. Encourage him. Examples might be: Just wanted you to know I really appreciate how you’ve handled _________ lately. Your patience with ___________ made it really easy for me to get through this. I’m proud to be your girlfriend. Thank you for giving the kids a bath last night so I could get off my feet … even after you’d worked all day. You are so good to me. I don’t say it often, but you are my hero. Thank you for taking such good care of our sweet family. I notice. And I so appreciate all you are and do for us.

15. Spice Up Your Communication: Ask Each Other!

When you have time alone together, ask each other: what is one thing you could do to make your relationship better. Pick the right time to ask (when both are relaxed and ready for such discussion), give each other some time to think about it, and prepare  your heart to accept his answer lovingly and thoughtfully. You might be surprised at the answer!

16. Spice Up Your Communication: Play Games

Play games together. Surprise your husband one night and spice it up! Play winner takes all: Whoever wins gets to pick the “activities” that night.

Hint: If you win, choose something that your significant other will love. Don’t use it as another opportunity to snub your lover. Make it a win-win.

17. Spice Up Your Communication: Spruce Up

Spruce up for your lover. Spend a little extra time each day sprucing up in the morning and before your significant other gets home from work. Wash your face, add some lip gloss, fix your hair, and wear something fresh and pretty. Add a bright smile and enjoy being beautiful for him/her. You’ll feel more attractive and s/he will appreciate the results.

18. Spice Up Your Communication: Sing Together

It is one of the MOST powerful things I have ever done or had done for me. Try it. Sing to each other, together while gazing into each others eyes. No touching. Just steering.

19. Spice Up Your Communication: Bathe Her Feet

Want to show your goddess just how precious she is? Surprise her. Fill a tub with warm water and fresh rose petals. Blind fold her and seat her comfortably, and guide by touching her leg and moving your hands down to her feet. Start massaging and then lift over the water basin and drip some water on her feet before completely submerging. Rub her feet and legs with the petals. Finishing off with a cream (or coconut oil rub).

20. Spice Up Your Communication: Make An Investment

Open a love bank account – Make an investment in your adventures. We make investments of time, money, and resources every day. As a gift to each other, plan to go to a new place together, retreat or conference.

21. Spice Up Your Communication: Romantic Weekend

Go away for a romantic night or weekend at a bed and breakfast, hotel, or cabin.

22. Spice Up Your Communication: Massage

Give a massage. Give your significant other a foot rub, hand rub, scalp massage, back massage. Sitting around together talking or reading? Take his/her feet or hands and massage them. Walk up behind your lover while s/he’s cooking and massage her/his neck and shoulders. Don’t give a teaser massage –just enough to get him or her to drop the shoulders, then walk away. Linger. Focus on your lover. Say, “Tonight I’m going to give you a shoulder and back massage.” Set aside some time before we go to sleep to relax and let me rub those knots out.” Men, here’s a note: If you’re the one giving your lover the massage, let her know the massage is just for her …you don’t want her to reciprocate that night, and it doesn’t have to turn into an amorous, passionate encounter (unless she wants it to, of course). That will help her relax during the massage. Loving  your lover this way encourages her to love you in ways you enjoy. And, of course, incorporating massages into intimate encounters is a wonderful way to “spice it up,” too.

23. Spice Up Your Communication: Walk Together

Take a morning or evening walk together. Walk in your neighborhood. Meet at the park after work. Build healthy bodies and a healthy relationship. Talk about things you can’t talk about when the kids are around. Become better friends. Use this time to reconnect, listen, and encourage each other. Pray together about any concerns or praises that came up in your conversation.

24. Spice Up Your Communication: Build Anticipation

Build anticipation. It is well known that building anticipation is one of the best ways to spice up a relationship.  Give your significant other hints that you have something special planned for him or her on Friday night. Build anticipation by giving your lover one item or hint a day until the special event. Leave him a voice mail. Be creative! Build anticipation.

25. Spice Up Your Communication: Smile

Smile! Practice smiling at your significant other. When you talk on the phone to your spouse, smile; A smile can be heard in your voice.


So there you have it:

Time to quit being discontent and choose joy. It’ll do wonderful things for your Communication. Encourage your significant other with a joyful heart and a smile on your face.

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